Boundaries
This was the theme for the Spring Married Couple retreat that New Hope organized during March 23-25.
When to say yes and when to say no to take control of your life is something very important. Christian families often focus so much on being loving and giving that they forget their own limitations. That can bring lots of frustration and sometimes even conflicts. In the phisical world, boundaries are easy to see. They give the following message: This is where my property begnins. In the spiritual world, boundaries are just as real, but often harder to see. In the family relationship, the problem arises when one trespasses on the other's personhood, when one crosses a line and tries to control the feelings, attitudes, behaviours, choices and values of the other. Our relationship with Christ and any other succesful relationship is based on freedom. During the weekend, we've learned how we can set limits and still be a loving person, how to answer someone who wants my time, love, energy or money and how not to feel guilty or intrusive when setting boundaries.
